They have ended for whatever reasons, but sometimes, there is that one person, no matter how hard one tries, that one cannot get over. How does one get over that one person, who will never be yours, (for whatever reasons) and then move on? Here is a five step plan which if followed is very likely to help.
1. Acceptance
The first would be to ask oneself if one really wants to move on. Have you accepted that this person and you are never going to have a relationship and you cannot even be friends? Have you decided that you truly want to get over them and move on with your life?
2. Axe the sentimentalism
If so, then one has to be ruthless, hard-hearted and determined. Remember, you are trying to reclaim your life. You do not want to keep checking out their photos on social networking sites. So block that person and delete all the old mails, chats, texts and any reminders of the past. The more you hold on to them, the harder it will be to get over the person.
3. Distract yourself
The moment you find your mind wandering to their thoughts and what they used to say, do and sound like, distract yourself quickly. Show a red light to your mind and ask it to STOP. Hit the gym, go for a walk, do something, but don’t think about that person.
4. Remind yourself that you are loved
Just because that person does not love you, it does not mean you are worthless and your life is going nowhere. Remind yourself of the people who love you—your best friends, your family. Spend more time with them and surround yourself with them. If you have had relationships before, then think of how you overcame them. If you did it once, you can surely do it again.
Also remember that there are new people waiting to enter your life. Just like we need to get rid of clutter to physically make space for something on a shelf, so too we need to clear out our minds, sometimes.
5. Drown yourself in a hobby or a passion
One is spoilt for choices when it comes to recreation these days. Take up your once forgotten hobby. Join a dance class. Go Para-sailing if that is what makes you happy. Do not wallow, trying to figure out why that person does not want you. Remind yourself that you are truly worth more than clinging to somebody who does not care in the same manner you do.
It may be hard to follow the above initially. But steel yourself and do not waver. Before you know it, you would have reclaimed your life.
All the best!
